Saturday, August 18, 2012

Death of a Hope

 Have you ever faced the death of a hope?  Do you know anyone who has?  How did they deal with it?  

Hope:
1.  to cherish a desire with anticipation
2.  to expect with confidence: trust 

Have you every hoped for something with all your heart soul and being?  Have you ever lost all hope of a particular thing?  I have.

For many years I had hoped to have a child only to find that it was not God's plan for me at that time or place.  It was like the death of a person who never existed.  I longed to have a child with all my heart.  I prayed.  I cried.  I prayed more and cried more.  I experienced all of the friends and acquaintances having child after child.  I had people rub babies feet on me and say you need one too.  I have had people tell me that I did not drink the same or the right water.  I have had other women who were mom's go on and on about not having a child of the sex of their choice and how to make sure they had a boy or girl.  All the things that they tried to have a girl or have a boy.  All the while I was longing for a child of my own.  The hurt in my heart was so very real and yet not many people cared or understood.

I found that this journey strengthened my life.  I did not have the answers.  I did not get the answers that I prayed for.  My life did not go as I had planned. My life did not go the way that I thought God would have planned it either.  But ONE THING THAT I DID KNOW AND STILL KNOW is that GOD IS WITH ME EVEN WHEN I DID NOT UNDERSTAND OR DO NOT UNDERSTAND.  

I never thought that I would ever be married again.  I never thought that I would be loved again.  Old, fat and infertile.  God had other plans.

God had a plan for Jenna's life.  She was fearfully and wonderfully made.  God had a plan for her birth mother and birth father and still does.  Her birth mother choose life.  God choose her to be part of our family.

I do not know what His answer is for you or your family or your situation but I DO KNOW THAT HE WILL BE WITH YOU REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU FEEL OR IF YOU UNDERSTAND.

Praise God that He loves us each and everyone.

Here is a link for those who struggle with infertility.


Stepping Stones Infertility Resources








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